Sometimes it’s hard to take an objective look at your relationship with your partner. We tend to compare our relationships – and our partners – with other people we know. Are we doing better or worse than those around us, we might ask. What if that’s not the best way to evaluate your relationship with
“Good fences make good neighbors” isn’t just a witty cliché, but a useful analogy when we talk about boundaries. Everyone has boundaries. Some boundaries are like fences, others are like walls, and some are even like frequently forgotten property lines. Regardless of what they look like, no one likes when their boundaries are crossed. That’s
Did someone ever completely mischaracterize you? Maybe you did something for one reason, and they thought you did it for another. Then when they explained what they thought your reasoning was, you were so confused because that is not what you had in mind at all. When people protest against boundaries in a relationship, the problems are
If you go to see a rom-com, you might notice the idea of having “no boundaries” is portrayed as exciting, fun, intimate, and sexy. In these movies, a lack of boundaries signifies a committed relationship, an exciting sex life, or some sort of standard. As usual, the movies lie. Boundaries are definitely still needed in romantic relationships,
Many people fear making boundaries will hurt their loved ones, or even cause people to hate them. It is important to distinguish two things: When a partner has been harmed When a partner simply does not like something Healthy boundaries will not harm a partner. It does not harm someone if their partner tends to their own
